#32: Don’t Know What I Don’t Know
Dangerously arrogant assumption
The argument that you “can learn a lot about yourself through a relationship” always bothered me. A path of self-exploration can be done independently, and I have friends to teach me about people skills. It turned out that I couldn’t know what I was missing until I experienced it for myself.
The nature of a romantic relationship is such that it gets very close very fast. Eventually, you are so close you cannot hide your true self or even disclose parts of it. This other person then acts as a mirror into myself. Because of our differences, we grow to see parts of ourselves that we couldn’t before. I am learning so much right now that I cannot imagine that I thought I already knew everything.
Just because I cannot see something right now doesn’t mean there is nothing there. All I can say is: