#21: NO MANUAL
I have to knit a sweater of my own
In attempts to reduce the overwhelming complexity of the world, we tend to search for a manual for action. My mind always asks: “How are things supposed to be?”, “Should I be worried about this because it’s not according to the norm?” Following a manual guarantees evolutionary success because it means we belong to a concrete tribe with defined values and principles.
Yet, in the modern world of infinite choices, our ancient evolutionary mechanics don’t always guarantee success. First off, there is no manual comprehensive and personalized enough for each of us. Secondly, there are so many options that success is dependent on my ability to find, mix or craft a tribe for me rather than follow the one immediately around me. No existing manual can dictate to me how to get what I might not even know I want.
So instead of always wondering about how “by the manual” I live, what if I give myself the permission to be uniquely me? What if I give in to the urges of inner curiosity regardless of how normal it is? Someone in Israel once told me: “A religion is a pre-made sweater that keeps you warm. But you have to knit a sweater of your own.” There is no manual, and the existing sweater is getting disentangled and decentralized. I have to knit a sweater of my own.