#154: Call a Friend, Evolution
align myself with what I am wired to seek
Last night I was peacefully sitting at my desk. My apartment is on the same floor as five other neighbors, so I opened the door to freshen the air. I was doing my computer stuff in total serenity when a woman with a crying child broke in. She rushed past me to the sink to get water for her child’s bleeding cut. She tore down my towel, ran water over it, and applied it to the child’s skin countless times.
Once the child calmed down, the mother came to her senses. She started apologizing for breaking in, and saying “thank you”. I didn’t mind her intrusion. In fact, I was grateful I could see primal evolutionary forces at work. A mother scared for her child’s wellbeing is wildly unapologetic, effective, and demanding. When she sees her child’s pain, there is no room for niceness or politeness. Her most primal urge dissipates all excuses. She cannot afford to do anything less than “whatever it takes” to save the child.
I want to align myself with my evolutionary urges so that the millennia-long winds blow in my direction. For example, I want to reach my most beautiful shape so that I can attract and keep the most desirable mate. I need to be wildly efficient in my 20s because my fertility will be rapidly decreasing after 30. When I align myself accordingly with what I am wired to seek as a human, and as a female, it becomes very easy to do the right things. Where there is alignment, there is no hard work, excuses, or even the possibility of failure. So I tell myself: