#149: Anger = Productized Sadness
two responses to pain
**This post is a product of a discussion with Jeremiah**
Anger and sadness are two responses to pain. A hardship exerts pressure on me: I either push against it by being angry, or I give in by being sad. A burst of pain expends a certain amount of energy: I either spend it crying, or I utilize it to push forward. The more the pain, the more energy I can collect from it: either as fuel or damage. That is why people either transcend tragedy or are demolished by it.
Sadness is extremely unproductive. It is an inherently passive state when I am too weak to help myself. Anger is rooted in action because it cannot be kept inside: it desperately seeks expression. It is more effective to be angry about my pain, because anger unlocks my own powers, while sadness dulls them. Therefore, I want to turn my pain into rage that acts as fuel for action.
How do I engineer this switch? Simply realize that a person who would get angry about my current situation will be better off. The angry me will hustle, ask for help, make a huge fuss, not tolerate getting hit and eventually bulldoze my way to a better set-up. The sad me is progressively losing energy and confidence, thus getting more fine with suboptimal conditions. The sad me is a complacent settler. The angry me is a beast-mode conqueror. So I tell myself: