#14: A mature heart is forgiving
Forgiving the inevitable pain we will cause each other
My relationships have drastically improved once I stopped interpreting the actions of other people negatively. The rate of events that can be interpreted negatively has not changed, but I transformed my perception. A loving heart is one that is capable of forgiving the inevitable pain we will cause each other. This pain is part of the journey. It must be embraced and experienced.
Going through tough emotional experiences gives me humility, which makes me less harsh. If I treat the pain right, I will come out of it feeling a bit humbled: there are forces beyond my control that overtake us. I will also come out feeling a sense of deep gratitude for the people I have. As I become more mature, I start being driven less by ego and more by love.
So even when person X causes me pain, I am able to say:
I am really hurt about this. But our relationship has brought tremendous benefits to both of us. My heart is strong enough to want to fight for you in spite of the pain.