#132: A Bird In the Hand
I dissolve my conflict by deconstructing its ingredients
There is a famous Russian saying: “A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush“. What I own is always less than what’s out there. So I’m always conflicted between holding on to my one bird and missing out on other opportunities vs. chasing the two birds and risking losing the one I have. This is a conflict I face every day; call it seduction, distraction, jealousy, or progress. How do I know if I am being distracted rather than motivated? At the same time, how do I ensure I don’t just settle for what is contextually available to me?
The resolution of this conflict lies in understanding the function of the brain behind each impulse. The drive for the conquest of the new is the cornerstone of human progress. Jealousy is meant to drive me to acquire what I don’t yet have. I am also meant to feel extreme loss aversion to the love and opportunities I already have because that’s how I keep them. So really it’s an internal conflict with my own human brain rather than an external conflict with seductions.
Understanding the inevitable impact of my existing environment, I can curate it to be the closest to what I desire. Understanding the nature of jealousy, I can recognize when it’s “positive” and when it’s a distraction. I dissolve my conflict by deconstructing its ingredients.